If you have eyes for a married guy, you’re probably sitting here looking for every excuse under the sun to rationalize what you’re thinking of doing.Even if a cheater does leave his wife for his side chick, do you think that means he’s changed? Unfortunately, men often cheat because they have an opportunity to.This post was originally published back in 2006 and had such a huge response, I had to take it offline as it was causing problems with the server. Sometimes an ultimatum is needed to bring things to a head, but if you have no intention of actually following through – you’ll look like a dipstick and then he knows that he doesn’t actually have to make a decision. You are the other woman, he belongs to someone else, this isn’t a good indicator of how much he can be trusted and he is probably having sex with his girlfriend/wife. It will do you no favours and makes you appear to be jealous and childish. The moment you feel yourself going off the rails and wanting to follow him, cut up his clothes, follow his girlfriend/wife, hang around at his kids school, fake pregnancies, fake diseases and any other devious or attention seeking carry-on, it’s time to abort the mission and bail out. Take off the rose tinted glasses and particularly if you have been with him for an extended period of time, you need to let go.It’s now been republished but you can see the updated version here: 1. If you have any sense of self-worth planned, don’t be banking on being the other woman forever. An ultimatum is an ultimatum for a reason which means there should only be ONE. Do tell someone but do ensure that you tell someone who isn’t going to blow the lid on things. Don’t make him the focal point of your existence and don’t be afraid to spend time on your own and certainly spend time with friends and family. How can you be spending so much energy running after a man who is throwing you the crumbs of his attention? This doesn’t mean he loves you – it means he’s greedy, indecisive, cowardly and a cheat. It’s a difficult situation but he is with this person and whatever reason he has come up with being with you and cheating on her, he hasn’t left her and he’s still with her. It doesn’t take that long to leave someone and he is emotionally unavailable no matter what he says.Baggage Reclaim is a guide to learning to live and love with self-esteem by breaking the patterns that stand in your way.Whether it’s figuring out what’s going on in a troubling relationship, understanding you and self-care, or being more assertive, I’m here to help you guide you.
And admit it, you’d love a man who’s a mess, if he likes you. But when he looks towards you for emotional support and love, the same things his own wife, apparently, doesn’t provide him, you end up falling in love, more with his emotional affairs rather than anything else.
Click here to read the experience of having an affair with a married man from the beginning.
Of all the relationships you can get into as a girl, dating a married man is one of the worst kinds.
Another difference is that jealousy is typically associated with exclusive human relationships. The focus of concern in envy is our undeserved inferiority.
Because inferiority can stem from a variety of factors, envy may be born of any or all of them and not merely from the threatened loss of some human relationships.